About Me
The short version
Moments captured
Four photographs, four versions of the same person. The through-line between them isn't the one I'd have picked, and it took me a long time to see it at all.
I didn't start from a good position
I moved thirty-two times before I was an adult. There was a stretch in a tent, and a spell in a motel where the owner let us stay for nothing. I barely made it through school, and nobody meeting me at sixteen would have marked me out for anything in particular.
My mother collected four-leaf clovers and pressed them into an album. She spent hours in the forest looking for them, and she never found much luck. I’ve thought about that for most of my life — not the clovers, but the direction she was looking in.
What changed it was seventeen years of Taekwon-Do. Not the fighting. The part where you turn up on a Tuesday in February when you don’t feel like it, and keep doing that for nearly two decades. That is where I learned that discipline isn’t a quality certain people are born with. It’s a decision you re-make often enough that it stops being a decision.
What I actually do now
I work with people who have already won the game they were told to play. Entrepreneurs and leaders with the money, the business and the credentials — and a quiet, persistent sense that they are living on a track somebody else laid down for them.
I call it the Default Timeline. It isn’t a crisis and it doesn’t look like one from the outside, which is exactly why it goes unattended for years.
The work itself is simple and not easy: filter out what was never yours, get clear on who you actually are underneath it, then create on purpose rather than by inheritance. That’s the whole method, and I give it away free as The Reality Shift Template.
How it actually went
The storyline (more or less)
Three points where the direction changed. Two of them didn't feel like progress at the time.
The exit that wasn't a choice
My girlfriend had ninety days in Norway as a tourist. The paperwork to let her stay wanted around a thousand dollars and months we didn't have. So we left. I sold or binned roughly eighty per cent of what I owned, put the rest in a storage locker, and flew out with a one-way ticket and three nights booked. It turned out to be the best decision of my adult life. It also wasn't really a decision — I was cornered, and the door happened to open in a good direction.
Leaving on purpose this time
Years later I left again, in the other direction and for the opposite reason. No visa clock. Nobody forcing it. Just a clear sense that the place had finished doing whatever it had been doing for me. The country I'd once been desperate to get out of turned out to be exactly where I wanted to be, the moment I was the one choosing.
Sovereign Reality Design
Which is where the work comes from. Everything I teach now I ran on myself first, usually without meaning to and rarely in the right order. I'm not trying to build a large company. I'd rather run something small, sharp and genuinely useful, for people who have decided to stop drifting.
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