Do you want more luck in your life? Sounds good, doesn’t it. Someone told me in a café a few weeks ago that I’d been “lucky” with my life. So I asked her what she thought luck actually was, and how a person would go about getting more of it. Because being lucky is something you can learn.
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Are you a lucky person or an unlucky one?
In coaching sessions I sometimes ask people whether they consider themselves lucky or unlucky. I ask because the answer tells me, in one sentence, what they expect from their own life.
It usually stops them for a moment. It pokes at the automatic answer they were about to give — “ha, typical me to be unlucky.”
So what do you think luck is? When I was a child, my mother — who struggled badly in life — collected four-leaf clovers and pressed them into an album. She believed that finding one meant good things were coming. She could spend hours outside the house or in the forest looking for them.
She never did find much luck. And I don’t think the clovers were the problem — I think the looking outward was.
Being lucky is a choice
That’s right. And so is being stuck — usually an unconscious one.
Here’s how I think about luck. If you use the word the way most people use it, you’re actually saying that life is entirely random. That nothing in our existence is synchronised or organised in any way at all.
Which is why people experience luck as just being lucky — a random event that happened to collide with them, and nothing more to say about it.
I don’t buy it. There’s more to it, and you can start choosing to be lucky if you want to.
It’s mindset.
Two factors that make lucky things happen
Things happen. Live a few years and you’ll have noticed. Mostly it feels as though life happens to us and our days are outside our control.
So when something unexpected and bad arrives we call it bad timing, unfortunate, tragic, unlucky. When something unexpected and good arrives, we call it luck.
I think two things produce the good version. Though bear in mind that two different people can experience the identical event as positive and negative.
- You’re in the flow of your own life — on the right path, in sync with yourself.
- You’ve moved into a moment that was waiting for you. A sweet spot, orchestrated by your higher self.
We generate an astonishing number of events and experiences, from waking up in the morning to the ones that redirect a personality for years.
But the big ones — the ones that genuinely shift your reality or open a route you didn’t know was there — those are part of a larger plan. They’re meant to happen, and they’ll find a way to happen sooner or later.
I think most lives have a red thread running through them. A theme that keeps returning because there’s something in it you’re here to learn. Positive and negative both.
Not evil. That’s just a sick term invented by religion.
When you’re in agreement with the universe
So why do we say some people are luckier than others?
They aren’t. They’re just more in tune with themselves and with what they’re actually here to do. In sync, if you like. So they collide with more good things. If you’ve noticed the same faces and the same signs turning up repeatedly, that’s the same mechanism — I’ve written about synchronicity and what it’s pointing at separately.
“Why am I always so unlucky?”
You’re not unlucky. You’re out of tune with yourself, so you’re producing situations that don’t feel right. Your mindset is running in a negative state and you may not even know it.
How to be luckier, starting now
First, change the definition. Swap out the reptile-brain version of what luck is.
Luck does not mean: a surprising positive experience, randomly generated.
Luck means: a synchronistically orchestrated experience.
Once that lands, you can start making more of it by changing a few things:
- Get in tune with yourself. That’s the work — figure out who’s actually in there.
- Be grateful for what you already have, now.
- Stop whining about small things.
- Take control and make decisions. Stop living a random life on the assumption that things happen TO you rather than THROUGH you.
The Universe doesn’t judge, and it isn’t checking whether you’ve been nice. It just is. You move through it according to your own energy.
That’s a list for the bathroom mirror. It’s simple, and it’s mindset again. So go out and play — and if you’re lucky, you’ll start making luck.
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